Summer 2026 special offer - FREE 30-minutes consultation!
Trauma-informed coaching to help childhood trauma survivors thrive in adulthood
Your THRIVING goals await you!
— with Coach Ernest Ellender, PhD (The black belt trauma coach)
Hello! My name is Ernest Ellender, and I'm a trauma-informed life coach, somatic practitioner, and mentor-educator on a mission to help you experience post-traumatic growth as you achieve your best re-imagined thriving self. Remove toxic personal shame, develop positive self-regard, and move boldly towards personal stability, interpersonal connection, and joy!
Trauma-informed services
1:1 Trauma-informed Coaching
Virtual and in-person one-on-one coaching sessions focused on your life and relationship goals, fortified with with trauma-informed insights and post-trauma self-empowerment.
Trauma-informed Mentor Program for professionals
Life coaches, therapists, psychologists, and other healing professionals seeking to deepen their trauma-informed skills are invited to .join me for a mentor-coaching relationship that leads to greater comfort, competence, and confidence when serving trauma survivors.
Experience the healing and empowering benefits of a supportive group environment that focuses on educational insights, skills training, and collaborative group work led by Coach Ellender.
Services
Online Trauma-focused Support Group (Coming soon in 2027)
Testimonials
A bit about me
Doctorate in clinical psychology (2007)
The complexity of trauma recovery has fascinated me for over 30 years now, and I bring this passion to each coaching relationship that I have the honor of engaging. My book (published in 2024) combines my academic and clinical pursuits with my personal and familial experiences into a novel, comprehensive approach to healing and the pursuit of intergenerational health and thriving.
Each client presents a bitter sweet experience for me. I love getting to know their unique story as they efficiently move towards their goals, but then I miss them once they've achieved them!
I live in South Louisiana where I spend any time I can get on the bayous and beaches with my family and friends. My weekly routine involves working with coaching clients, training martial arts and freediving, doing ice plunges, and enjoying the wonderful local flavors of Cajun cuisine and New Orleans cocktails.
My gift lies in my passion for supporting trauma survivors as they shed obstacles to the fullest expression of their personal resilience and innate power.
My book
This Is How We Heal from Painful Childhoods:
A Practical Guide for Healing Past Intergenerational Stress and Trauma
*Winner of 14 prestigious book awards*
Survivors
This guide takes you from beginner through the advanced phases of trauma recovery. Over 7 years in the making, I put everything I had into this 20-rules curriculum for addressing the many struggles of post-traumatic growth following generational family dysfunction (neglect, addiction, abuse, divorce, chronic anxiety). If some of your goals include increasing personal stability, interpersonal connectivity, and familial health, then there's a lot in here for you! It focuses first on personal development before focusing on intimate relationships with healthy others. Develop stable, strong, and healthy family connections that prepare you and the next generation for thriving adulthood!
Therapists, coaches and healing professionals
Are you seeking to deepen your trauma-informed skills as a healing professional? Within 6 months of integrating the 20 rules of this book into your practice, you can expect to develop more insights, competency, and confidence when addressing trauma-related issues with your clients. If you would like additional training, I offer Trauma-informed Mentor Programs, 1:1 mentoring, and consultation services.
How about some
FREE
resources
(for personal calm and interpersonal success)?
Learn how to be compassionate with yourself as you navigate trauma symptoms, shift away from shame toward self-love, and discover how trauma is impacting your relationships with my free downloadable resources.
FREE resources
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